Part III – “Pain Must Be Comforted”

This is Part III of my series about pain! How many parts will this series be? Not for sure…so let’s just wait and see what God downloads! His grace is definitely sufficient as He so desires to set us free!  

As adults we have a way of rationalizing the pain from our past. Read more in  “Pain Distorts Truth” part I. But what about the little girl or little boy within…emotionally stunted, still hurting and needing to be comforted?  This type of emotional pain if gone uncomforted, can and will distort our view of God as a Father, how we see others, and ultimately how we live  out our  lives. We end up looking for the right thing - love - but in all the wrong places.We are chained to the pain of our past and our life becomes a prison. 

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  For example…
Pain in the past is remembered as anger
Pain in the present is experienced as hurt
Pain in the future is perceived as anxiety
                                                        author unknown 

But… wait there is hope!
Our good friends Pastor Dave and Kris Toyne  remind us….
 

Comforting pain…
So how do we begin to bring comfort to our pain?
Now I don’t expect you to go ”belly button gazing”…you know…searching for a demon under every rock! But we can posture ourselves in such a way that allows the Holy Spirit to  probe our hearts, surfacing any undealt with issues in our lives that hinder us from an intimate relationship with God and of course with others. 

 Plan of action…
1. LET GO! We first must comfort the pain in our own hearts! We can not take people to places that we have not yet been ourselves.  Free people free people! Letting go of the pain of our past is key! For a more in-depth  teaching on this subject,  you may purchase my husbands CD   “Letting Go”! 

2.  CREATE a safe place for others to get in touch with their pain. When we let go of our past we then have freedom to share it! We are able to fellowship in our weaknesses and not just our strengths, which allows others to feel safe to share themselves. No more shame! In most “shame based”  homes there are three unspoken family rules:Don’t trust
Don’t talk
Don’t feel.

So for hearts to feel safe to open to love once again… these rules of  “I don’t TRUST you enough to TALK to you about how I FEEL” must be broken and replaced with these three truths – Time, Truth and Trust! Read more … “Three T’s  to Real Freedom” 

and lastly… 

3.  GIVE it away!  We teach what we know but we impart who we are. Bottom line… we were created by love, for love, to love (Jack Frost).  No one is disqualified because of some horrific sin they have committed or have had committed to them. Receive love and give it away to the next one we meet- Love covers.
No more “shame on you” but rather “shame OFF you”!                               
                             
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The pain coming out hurts just as bad as when it went in… more in “Pain Must Be Confronted” part II. But when we allow the Holy Spirit to come and be our Comforter, the Father’s love pours in and displaces that pain! This is exactly what we  see take place in our weekend “Encounter’s” or our one on one “Prayer Ministry” times. Many begin for the first time in a long time to have breakthroughs in their lives and to finally feel comfortable with love! You too can see the same thing happen not only in your own heart…but also in your sphere of influence! 

Ok… it’s probably time now to take you to that place in my heart…check back later and I will tell you a BIG secret… well it’s not a secret anymore because I have NO MORE SHAME!  

Bless you!

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